As Black women, we often forget to take time for ourselves because we are wrapped up in being the “strong” ones. While confidence and leadership is in your DNA, it is essential to remember to love oneself.
Affirmations can range from telling yourself “I am strong” when in the middle of an intense workout to spending a few minutes in the mirror staring at yourself and appreciating everything that you see. Now, the latter may seem difficult for some because we live in a society that makes it easier to hate what we see than love it, but engaging with this bit by bit can make real positive, mental change.
An exercise for daily affirmation is to write down affirmations on pieces of scrap paper and put them in a jar to then read to start your day, or whenever you need it. Decorate your jar with colors that you associate with the happiest version of yourself, with stickers you may have lying around, or whatever else your heart desires in order to make this affirmation jar you.
To give you a head start, we will provide you with 20 affirmations, with some from the book Pussy Prayers: Sacred and Sensual Rituals for Wild Women of Color. You are welcome to print and cut these out to feed your new daily affirmation jar!
I am free of other people’s expectations of my womanhood.
I am a powerful creator and I manifest whatever I wish.
I radiate and attract love, peace. and pleasure.
My pleasure is my priority.
I am healed on every level.
My body is the temple that houses my spirit and I treat it with reverence and care.
My journey is mine and it is perfect for me.
I sleep knowing that I am divinely guided and protected.
I overflow with passion, fulfillment, and happiness.
I am proud of myself for what I have survived.
I accept myself as I am, and I am excited for how I intend to grow.
I feel powerful in my life right now, even as I strive toward healing.
Make yourself a priority.
I am committed to my success.
I am worthy.
I am love.
I deserve peace.
Pain is temporary, peace remains.
I am not an imposter.
I am talented.
Some additional suggestions:
- Make a playlist with songs that boost your mood!
- Download the app Eternal Sunshine for daily mantras. This app is for more religious readers as there is a guided meditation section titled “Christ Love”.
- Start journaling. Write down 3 characteristics about yourself that you are grateful for.
- Try yoga practice. This is a wonderful way to connect your mind with your body while getting a good workout that leaves you feeling great!Remember, it is more than okay to put yourself first!
– Kayla Bobb